Second Home Study Visit Complete
This past Friday we had our second home study visit. This was the interview visit.
First, she interviewed us together asking questions that weren't answered in our paperwork. She also asked for clarification on some of our answers in the paperwork. A couple questions were on the tougher side but she seemed to accept our answers.
- She mentioned my mother's new breast cancer diagnosis and asked if I was handling the stress from it because adding children will cause more stress.
- How much we (my siblings and I) were helping out and if I had a lot of the responsibility in helping my mother?
- How we are going to take care of ourselves once we get the children? IE: Getting a babysitter for date nights, etc...
- What child behavior we thought would be the hardest for us to handle?
- How we planned to keep our children safe from abuse, especially the children who have been sexually or physically abused already?
Then she interviewed us separately.
In my interview she asked questions like:
- Do you think Kyle is on the same level as you are in this process?
- What made you decide to adopt?
- How did you cope with all your miscarriage losses?
- Do you anticipate more surgeries for your condition? If so, how will you take care of the children during your recovery time?
- What will be your biggest adjustment when the children are placed with you?
- What do you think will be Kyle's biggest adjustment when the children are placed with you?
Kyle's interview questions were:
- Why he decided to do the adoption through the foster care system?
- She could tell I was more into church than Kyle was from our paperwork so she asked him how he would handle it if the children wanted to go to church.
- What would be his biggest adjustment?
- What he thought would be my biggest adjustment?
- She asked him about his frustrations with the adoption process: the length of the process, the questions asked about us and our families, etc...
She told us that the adoption process is a long one. Though we are close to being done with the home study we have a long time before children are placed with us. She said the matching process takes a while, then we have to do visits and both parents & children have to decide to go further, then they would move in, and then we'd all decide if we wanted to be a family or not.
On the first home study visit she thought we needed to have the bedrooms furnished for the home study. We found out we just had to have a plan and the means to furnish each room before we get approved. So, yesterday we went to RoomsToGoKids and purchased two twin over twin bunk bed sets with dressers. This way we will have 4 twin beds and 1 queen sized bed in the 3 bedrooms. With this setup we can potentially get approved for up to 5 children. We knew we'd have to make this purchase but just didn't really anticipate the cost.
If any of you want to know what we want for Christmas, we could use twin sized bedding sets for those 4 twin mattresses. *hint* *hint*
Last thing she said she needed to know for our home study submission was our backup plan for the children should something happen to us. We had talked about it on several occassions but hadn't approached anyone with that question. So, we had to make that phone call and see if they were in agreement. She was absolutely in agreement to take care of her neices and nephews should anything happen to us.
First, she interviewed us together asking questions that weren't answered in our paperwork. She also asked for clarification on some of our answers in the paperwork. A couple questions were on the tougher side but she seemed to accept our answers.
- She mentioned my mother's new breast cancer diagnosis and asked if I was handling the stress from it because adding children will cause more stress.
- How much we (my siblings and I) were helping out and if I had a lot of the responsibility in helping my mother?
- How we are going to take care of ourselves once we get the children? IE: Getting a babysitter for date nights, etc...
- What child behavior we thought would be the hardest for us to handle?
- How we planned to keep our children safe from abuse, especially the children who have been sexually or physically abused already?
Then she interviewed us separately.
In my interview she asked questions like:
- Do you think Kyle is on the same level as you are in this process?
- What made you decide to adopt?
- How did you cope with all your miscarriage losses?
- Do you anticipate more surgeries for your condition? If so, how will you take care of the children during your recovery time?
- What will be your biggest adjustment when the children are placed with you?
- What do you think will be Kyle's biggest adjustment when the children are placed with you?
Kyle's interview questions were:
- Why he decided to do the adoption through the foster care system?
- She could tell I was more into church than Kyle was from our paperwork so she asked him how he would handle it if the children wanted to go to church.
- What would be his biggest adjustment?
- What he thought would be my biggest adjustment?
- She asked him about his frustrations with the adoption process: the length of the process, the questions asked about us and our families, etc...
She told us that the adoption process is a long one. Though we are close to being done with the home study we have a long time before children are placed with us. She said the matching process takes a while, then we have to do visits and both parents & children have to decide to go further, then they would move in, and then we'd all decide if we wanted to be a family or not.
On the first home study visit she thought we needed to have the bedrooms furnished for the home study. We found out we just had to have a plan and the means to furnish each room before we get approved. So, yesterday we went to RoomsToGoKids and purchased two twin over twin bunk bed sets with dressers. This way we will have 4 twin beds and 1 queen sized bed in the 3 bedrooms. With this setup we can potentially get approved for up to 5 children. We knew we'd have to make this purchase but just didn't really anticipate the cost.
If any of you want to know what we want for Christmas, we could use twin sized bedding sets for those 4 twin mattresses. *hint* *hint*
Last thing she said she needed to know for our home study submission was our backup plan for the children should something happen to us. We had talked about it on several occassions but hadn't approached anyone with that question. So, we had to make that phone call and see if they were in agreement. She was absolutely in agreement to take care of her neices and nephews should anything happen to us.
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