Therapeutic Behavior Management Training
Saturday morning we attended the Therapeutic Behavior Management training session required for us to do legal risk adoptions. The training was designed to help foster and adoptive parents understand what is causing the behavior of their children. These children come from troubled backgrounds and bring with them a tremendous amount of trauma. Learning what triggers them can help them heal.
The TBM Model focuses on whether or not the problem is immediately dangerous or not, if it is deliberate or emotional, and how to handle each situation.
This model also provided education on how to prevent common adult anger traps:
1) Outside Stress
2) Embarrassment
3) Values Violation
4) Authority Challenge
In the end, "self awareness is the key to self control." When we know what triggers us we can prevent emotional overreactions.
Much of the class did feel repetetive but it was really good content. Going over the simplistic ideas with the detail they did helped burn it into our minds. I hope we will effectively use this model in the future.
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On a side note, there was a couple at the class that did frighten me about this adoption process.
This couple looked like a hot mess. I'm not going to lie or sugar coat it. They were physically and emotionally beat down and exhausted beyond all belief.
The first set of children they got in their home were supposedly legally free for adoption meaning the parents rights were already terminated. However, only days after bringing them into their home they were told they had to do weekly visits with the father. Eventually the father was able to get the children back, though not for long as he ended up back in jail. At that point, the children went into another home.
Their 3 current children had been in 11 foster homes before their home. The agency did not tell them the truth at all. This couple said they were told exactly what they needed to hear in order to bring the children into their home. Granted, this was an emergency placement so they didn't do the courtship with the children that our agency promises.
These children have several qualities/conditions they specifically said no to in their paperwork. One they feel is a psycopath but is too young to be offically diagnosed. It has been a year since the children were first brought into their home and they still fear them and struggle to not only care for them but to care for themselves as well.
I will say, I am impressed with this couple. We've heard so many stories of families sending children back into the system over and over again. This couple truly is trying to make it work. They will be in my prayers.
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We still have yet to receive any profiles on available children. I mostly do not hear from our agency unless I email them first. At that point, they respond by saying they are working on getting us the profiles. They tell us case workers keep asking if we are still available. That is as far as we get though. So, more patience is needed on our part.
The TBM Model focuses on whether or not the problem is immediately dangerous or not, if it is deliberate or emotional, and how to handle each situation.
This model also provided education on how to prevent common adult anger traps:
1) Outside Stress
2) Embarrassment
3) Values Violation
4) Authority Challenge
In the end, "self awareness is the key to self control." When we know what triggers us we can prevent emotional overreactions.
Much of the class did feel repetetive but it was really good content. Going over the simplistic ideas with the detail they did helped burn it into our minds. I hope we will effectively use this model in the future.
__________________________________________________________
On a side note, there was a couple at the class that did frighten me about this adoption process.
This couple looked like a hot mess. I'm not going to lie or sugar coat it. They were physically and emotionally beat down and exhausted beyond all belief.
The first set of children they got in their home were supposedly legally free for adoption meaning the parents rights were already terminated. However, only days after bringing them into their home they were told they had to do weekly visits with the father. Eventually the father was able to get the children back, though not for long as he ended up back in jail. At that point, the children went into another home.
Their 3 current children had been in 11 foster homes before their home. The agency did not tell them the truth at all. This couple said they were told exactly what they needed to hear in order to bring the children into their home. Granted, this was an emergency placement so they didn't do the courtship with the children that our agency promises.
These children have several qualities/conditions they specifically said no to in their paperwork. One they feel is a psycopath but is too young to be offically diagnosed. It has been a year since the children were first brought into their home and they still fear them and struggle to not only care for them but to care for themselves as well.
I will say, I am impressed with this couple. We've heard so many stories of families sending children back into the system over and over again. This couple truly is trying to make it work. They will be in my prayers.
__________________________________________________________
We still have yet to receive any profiles on available children. I mostly do not hear from our agency unless I email them first. At that point, they respond by saying they are working on getting us the profiles. They tell us case workers keep asking if we are still available. That is as far as we get though. So, more patience is needed on our part.
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