First Adoption Match
Last Friday we had our first adoption match meeting. The two hour phone conversation was not at all what we expected and certainly does not give us hope for future meetings.
First, we thought it would be a face to face encounter where we would be able to look at photos and documents together with our case worker. Instead, she just called us and read us the information.
Second, it was as if she didn't prepare for the meeting at all. She was reading the documents all out of order and couldn't find the information we would ask about. It was very disorganized.
Then there wasn't any information on the children since 2016. She also couldn't tell us what grade they were in.
Lastly, it wasn't really a match at all. We told them we wanted at least one boy and one girl in a sibling group of 1-4 siblings. This group was 2 boys. We also told them we prefer the ages 0-8 years so they could grow up with our nieces and nephews. These boys were 9 and 12 years old. Probably most of all, Kyle said he couldn't take a child that is known to be agressive to the mother figure. One of these boys threatened the life of the last lady who was about to adopt him. It must have been a pretty bad threat because she immediately had them taken from her home. But our social worker couldn't give us any information on that threat.
Honestly, I can't see how someone could make a decision to adopt children with the information they gave us. None of it was recent and what they did have was so vague. One boy scratched another boy when playing games. Ok, kids fight from time to time. Was it just a normal kid argument or was this something more? She couldn't give us any details.
We were a little disappointed when the phone meeting was over. I have hopes that future meetings will be more organized and detailed.
On a good note, they finally put together an adoption party where you meet all the social workers in the state. This is what we've been asking for since we first went to the adoption party where you meet the kids available for adoption. We really felt weird at those events and thought meeting social workers to discuss what we want and what they have would be better. We will be going to this event in May. We are very excited about it.
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I apologize for the time in between my posts. We've been incredibly busy with work, school, the basement flooding again, Skuld getting pancreatitis, and then I caught a terrible upper respiratory infection.
Skuld must have eaten some kind of furry animal one day when she was outside. That first night she was sick she kept throwing up giant fur balls that were obviously not from her. Her poop became black with tar-like consistency and she was refusing to eat. Skuld never refuses to eat so that was our biggest sign. Two vet visits later and we finally confirmed the diagnosis of pancreatitis. She wasn't allowed to eat for 24 hours and then put on a special diet. They gave her medications to help with her symptoms as well. She is doing wonderful now. I just dropped her off at the vet for her follow-up evaluation and should be getting her back soon.
Last Friday it flooded in Snellville. When we went into our basement that day we found it had flooded as well. We spent two hours getting all the water out of the basement. Luckily, Kyle has a shop vac and I have a wet vac so we tackled it together. We ran our de-humidifier all night along with fans. On Saturday, he rented an excavator to dig trenches in our yard. We are going to put french drains around our house to help prevent it from flooding until we can get the money to do the $15,000 for the lifetime fix for our basement.
I got a nasty upper respiratory infection of some sort. I ran a fever all night Thursday night. I don't have a fever anymore but I still don't have my voice back. I can't stop coughing and it is a very productive cough. I can't believe there is still stuff to cough up. Especially since my lungs sound clear. Anyway, I'm on antibiotics and steroids. They seem to be working.
Please keep us in your prayers. It has been a year since we decided to start the adoption process. We have had so many bumps in the road it has been pretty discouraging. Hopefully, this adoption event in May will give us exactly what we need to find our children. Thank you all for your encouragement, support, and prayers. We appreciate each and every one of you.
First, we thought it would be a face to face encounter where we would be able to look at photos and documents together with our case worker. Instead, she just called us and read us the information.
Second, it was as if she didn't prepare for the meeting at all. She was reading the documents all out of order and couldn't find the information we would ask about. It was very disorganized.
Then there wasn't any information on the children since 2016. She also couldn't tell us what grade they were in.
Lastly, it wasn't really a match at all. We told them we wanted at least one boy and one girl in a sibling group of 1-4 siblings. This group was 2 boys. We also told them we prefer the ages 0-8 years so they could grow up with our nieces and nephews. These boys were 9 and 12 years old. Probably most of all, Kyle said he couldn't take a child that is known to be agressive to the mother figure. One of these boys threatened the life of the last lady who was about to adopt him. It must have been a pretty bad threat because she immediately had them taken from her home. But our social worker couldn't give us any information on that threat.
Honestly, I can't see how someone could make a decision to adopt children with the information they gave us. None of it was recent and what they did have was so vague. One boy scratched another boy when playing games. Ok, kids fight from time to time. Was it just a normal kid argument or was this something more? She couldn't give us any details.
We were a little disappointed when the phone meeting was over. I have hopes that future meetings will be more organized and detailed.
On a good note, they finally put together an adoption party where you meet all the social workers in the state. This is what we've been asking for since we first went to the adoption party where you meet the kids available for adoption. We really felt weird at those events and thought meeting social workers to discuss what we want and what they have would be better. We will be going to this event in May. We are very excited about it.
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I apologize for the time in between my posts. We've been incredibly busy with work, school, the basement flooding again, Skuld getting pancreatitis, and then I caught a terrible upper respiratory infection.
Skuld must have eaten some kind of furry animal one day when she was outside. That first night she was sick she kept throwing up giant fur balls that were obviously not from her. Her poop became black with tar-like consistency and she was refusing to eat. Skuld never refuses to eat so that was our biggest sign. Two vet visits later and we finally confirmed the diagnosis of pancreatitis. She wasn't allowed to eat for 24 hours and then put on a special diet. They gave her medications to help with her symptoms as well. She is doing wonderful now. I just dropped her off at the vet for her follow-up evaluation and should be getting her back soon.
Last Friday it flooded in Snellville. When we went into our basement that day we found it had flooded as well. We spent two hours getting all the water out of the basement. Luckily, Kyle has a shop vac and I have a wet vac so we tackled it together. We ran our de-humidifier all night along with fans. On Saturday, he rented an excavator to dig trenches in our yard. We are going to put french drains around our house to help prevent it from flooding until we can get the money to do the $15,000 for the lifetime fix for our basement.
I got a nasty upper respiratory infection of some sort. I ran a fever all night Thursday night. I don't have a fever anymore but I still don't have my voice back. I can't stop coughing and it is a very productive cough. I can't believe there is still stuff to cough up. Especially since my lungs sound clear. Anyway, I'm on antibiotics and steroids. They seem to be working.
Please keep us in your prayers. It has been a year since we decided to start the adoption process. We have had so many bumps in the road it has been pretty discouraging. Hopefully, this adoption event in May will give us exactly what we need to find our children. Thank you all for your encouragement, support, and prayers. We appreciate each and every one of you.
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